As family law attorneys, we have an interesting perspective on gifts—particularly for children experiencing a divorce, separation, or involved in a custody dispute.
Here are gift ideas for children whose parents are going through a separation.
Ages 1-4
Busy Board – Screen Free & Sensory
New learners love exploring the keys and switches of busy boards. In addition to keeping your young ones off the tv or tablet, they can aid fine motor development, bilateral development, hand-eye coordination, and problem-solving skills.
Sensory boards can also be used to help children develop their sensory processing abilities, which are critical for learning, communication, and overall development.
Ages 5-10
Build-a-Bear
For those brave enough to venture into the mall during the holidays, Build-a-Bear offers an experience to create a beloved stuffed animal together. Maybe this companion travels to and fro houses, or stays at the co-parent’s house so your child can remember you’re right there with them.
In addition to building, make this experience an entirely special day—just you and your child. Go rollerskating, play at the arcade, eat at a special restaurant, get your nails painted.
This is a gift that also creates a memory of a perfect day.
Scooter
Outdoor time is quality time. Whether it’s up and down the driveway or around the block, scooters are another way to unplug your child and have some time together.
“Look at this new trick!” and “Did you see me do that!?” are a few of our personal favorite phrases.
(Plus a scooter is easier to transport between households than a bicycle.)
Here are a few of the NYTimes top recommended scooters.
Ages 11-13
Diary with Lock – Securing Trust
Divorce can come with a lot of big emotions, and teens need safe spaces to let them out.
Diaries and journals are a right of passage for every pre-teen, providing a place to process their thoughts and emotions.
With a combination lock and key, you provide a sense of security and trust with your child. Giving them a place that’s entirely their own is incredibly important during such a tumultuous time.
Digital Picture Frame
Keep the happy times forefront with a digital picture frame. This is a great gift for both you and your child—especially when time together is limited.
Send favorite pictures to each other’s frames and remember how special each moment together is.
Subscriptions
Hands-on subscription boxes like KiwiCo are both educational and fun. These STEAM boxes are customized toward your child’s age range and interests. Choose from the Labs, Studio, or World themes and spend time creating together.
Ages 14+
AirPods or Beats
It’s ok to let your teens be in their own headspace. Let them know you aren’t bothered by the silence with AirPods or Beats.
Monthly Subscription
We love the makeup subscriptions from Ipsy, which send pocket size makeup and skin care products, allowing your child to experiment with their look and identity.
Try the World boxes are assigned a new country every month, with special snacks and goodies from that country. Sample the world, and maybe even spark an interest in an international graduation present or future study abroad trip for your future college student.
Holiday Success
Every family situation is different. But different doesn’t always need to mean difficult. Where ever your child is on their own personal journey, support them this holiday season with a gift that stems from love and given with intent.
What gifts have you found to be successes for your children during your separation?